No marriage is always on cloud nine, but some marriages are on it more than others. And many marriages tend to fall off the cloud and get back on in a consistent manner. But sometimes marriages fall off of cloud nine and can't find their way back on it. This is the point where you start to wonder how you can save the marriage and start being happy again.
If you don't take some sort of action to change the dynamics of the marriage then there may be no hope. You can't make something better if it doesn't work - and if your marriage is not getting better than what you are doing is not working.
You may think that you have to change your whole relationship in order to get a positive result. You may feel like your marriage is totally lost. But the truth is that sometimes little things, little changes, can make a huge difference.
Change Your Routine
Chances are you have fallen into some sort of routine. You may even resent the routine a little and get tired of having the same thing happen day in and day out in your marriage, but because it's comfortable you keep doing it day in and day out. It's time to step out of your comfort zone!
You may need to shake things up a bit to get a different perspective on your marriage and each other. Try putting a stop to your normal way of doing things for a couple of weeks. Agree on some new hings to do including new activities, new things to eat, and even a new way to go to bed. Changing things up can make you feel differently about each other and even change the way you view each other.
Put Some Romance Back Into the Marriage
When you are not getting along in the marriage the last thing you may want to do is be romantic! But romance is what keeps you connected on a level that no one else gets to connect with you on.
Take the plunge and do something that you haven't done for your spouse in a long, long time. Buy her flowers, give him a back massage, take her out to dinner, or make him feel like he's the king of your castle for a night. Find the romance that you once shared and see if you can ignite that spark back into a fire.
Bottom line: If you really want to save the marriage then you are going to have to change up the way you participate in the marriage because this isn't working for you. So change your routine and add some romance and see what happens. If you find that your marriage starts improving then you go from there.
Wondering how to save your marriage is the first step in actually saving it. It shows that you care enough about the marriage to want to continue on with it.
Bellaisa's website, the Relationship Circle, has relationship advice for men and women.
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