You can save your marriage even though you are the only one who wants it to be saved. Marriage builders are people who just do not want their marriage to be saved but also wants to save other people's marriage.
Imagine yourself from your work going home to your spouse without any worries about misunderstanding or arguments that will occur between both of you, do you not feel good about that? Look at yourself and your spouse having a good evening in a sofa having coffee and laughing and talking about each other's day at work or at anything, does it not feel good? When you married your spouse, wasn't everything so perfect and wonderful? Both of you are marriage builders of your own.
On that very special day you had in your marriage, did you not imagine yourself and your spouse growing old together in a very warm home full of love? I bet you did that. But then problems came along. You had misunderstandings about some other things when you are together. All couples have problems. You should know that. All couples had misunderstanding on the times that they are together. But how is it that other couples still stay together after that misunderstanding while other couples choose to split apart. Well, that is your role as the marriage builder.
There is only one simple word to remember to keep your marriage intact even though you have a lot of problems that will come your way. That word should be "WE". Yes, the keyword for marriage is we. We means together, both of you, husband and wife. When you are married, you keep yourself together. Both of you should be one. Whatever you do, wherever you go, you should keep in mind also about your spouse and what will he or she will be thinking. You yourself should be your marriage builder.
For example, this is for men, when you are going out with friends on a disco house or a beer's house and you are married, you should think first about what your wife will also tell you when you go out with your friends. You should first ask permission if it is ok for her that you will go out with your friends. If it is not ok with her then never try to go out without her knowing. Remember that both you and your spouse is already one. If she resists that you should not go out and you really want to then try to convince her in a very nice way that she will not be hurt. If she said yes then you can go out with your friends without any worry in your mind. You will go out happy and you will enjoy because if she did not want you to go and you still went out with your friends, I assure you that you are not at peace even though you are going out to relax and you will not enjoy.
You can be a marriage builder yourself. Do your best to save your marriage especially if you really love your spouse. Never let that love pass through you. You will be happy living your life without any worries together.
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