Some Unique Ideas For Wedding Photos

If you're getting married soon then you have probably wondered who you are going to hire to take your pictures, and how those pictures are going to turn out. There are a lot of new ideas emerging with wedding photography these days and it's exciting to see some of the things you can do.

Let me share a few ideas with you that might seem a little strange a first, but could be a great way to capture this special day in a way that you will never forget.

One idea is to have you wedding photographer take some photos of you, as you are getting married, from above. Of course it would be cool to take some real aerial photos of the ceremony, if it's outside, but you can also do this indoors. Even from five or ten feet above you, using a camera crane, the photographer would be able to get some really great shots that will help you remember your ceremony in a special way.

Another idea is to take some panoramic shots at the wedding location. It might be better to take some of these shots outdoors, perhaps before or after the ceremony. Most cameras these days have a feature where panoramic shots are really simple to put together nicely. This could really make a great picture to hang on your wall to remember your wedding.

I've also been thinking a lot about photo shop. I know photo shop is for touching things up, when it comes to wedding photography, but why can't you be a little different and add something humorous or unbelievable to one of your pictures? I think it would be really funny to throw in something really off-beat in the background of one of the shots, just for fun.

Lastly, and I've heard of this one being done, some brides are choosing to do a special photo session after the wedding that is a little unique. They'll go to some muddy location, or even a lake or something, and just completely trash their wedding dress in front of the camera. This is another fun way to be unique and make your wedding a memorable experience.

The main thing to remember is that this is your wedding and you can have fun with it. It's a very special occasion, but that doesn't mean you can't be a little different and capture some moments in ways that will put a smile on your face twenty years later.

This article was written by Mike H. on behalf of Lynn Brown Photography, a team of experienced Altana wedding photographers. To learn more, please visit LynnBrownPhotography.com.

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Marriage and Joint Bank Accounts

Couples entering into a marriage have at least two bank accounts, but as they unite to become one, does it mean your bank accounts should too? There is always some discussion over the dilemma of whether to join the accounts or to keep each account separate.

When you were single you were use to having your own money and perhaps spending it as you like. Once you become married your finances change and now you are looking at buying a new car, house and furnishings. This will obviously affect the way to spend as you need to concentrate on these other fees that were never once a thought.

First and most importantly you must decide together on a joint bank account to place the wedding gifts in. Many couple discuss this before the wedding reception. If the cheques are made out to Mr & Mrs, it will be easier to cash or deposit if you have a joint account.

Some couple choose to have one shared account to cover all house expenses and bills which is usually (and wisely) monitored and kept track by the female in the family. Look at your finances together and decide how much is required to be put away in this account to cover items like, car payments, mortgage, groceries and perhaps a vacation. Now, everything you put in should just not cover everything you take out. Don't forget about putting a little aside for savings too. You never know when a surprise may come your way and you need to reach for a few extra dollars in your piggy bank!

Two additional separate accounts can be opened that are called "fun" money accounts. Everyone needs some financial independence, right? These accounts may be for the husband who wants to purchase sporting tickets and the wife who dips in for a new pair of designer shoes. You need to put a certain percentage of both paychecks into this account every two weeks and of course do it evenly.

Many times in a relationship, there is always one that is a spender and one that is a saver. Sometimes that is a good thing as the saver will do their best to control how much money you are going through. If you are both free with your money than you really need to change the ways you do things. You may have fun for a while but eventually it will catch up with you as you notice you are getting by week to week. If you are both tight with your money then I guess that's not a bad thing either, but don't give up something important because you are too cheap to buy it. It's all a balancing act and each couples needs and wishes are different from others.

One cannot live on love alone so you want to make sure you do your best to keep your finances in order. The number one reason for fighting in a relationship is money.Do your best to make the financial aspect work out. Communicate with each other and learn that sometimes you need to give a little here and there. In the end, you are building your future together and need to look down the road and not always on the present.

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I've Been Served With Divorce Papers? What Are The Chances My Husband Will Change His Mind?

I often hear from panicked wives who are in one of two situations. Either their husband has informed them that he has filed divorce papers. Or, the wife knows that he has filed them because she has been served with a copy. Most of the wives who contact me do not want a divorce. They are hoping with everything that they have that their husband will somehow change his mind. Many ask for my help in ensuring that this is going to happen. And many want to know their chances or odds for success.

I heard from a wife who said "three weeks ago, my husband admitted that he had seen an attorney and was going to file for a divorce. I begged him not to do that. I told him we could go to counseling or recommit to our marriage. And things seemed to improve a little between us. That's why I was so shocked to be visited by a process server at my job who handed me divorce papers. I immediately called my husband and begged him to change his mind. He admitted that he still loved me but he insisted that he just doesn't think our marriage will make it. I know if he would hear me out and give me a chance, we could make things work. How many men change their mind after filing for serving divorce papers? Is this a lost cause?"

The Lack Of Statistics Available For This Situation: I certainly don't think that it's always a lost cause. In preparation for this article, I tried to see if I could find any statistics that might help me to answer this question. I didn't find anything that gave me any specific numbers. I believe the reason for this is probably that legal professionals likely only keep track of divorces that actually go through, not those that don't. And, even if there were a way to track divorces that don't end up being final, it's probably not always clear which spouse changed their mind.

I could (and did) tell this wife what I see from correspondence that I get. But this is by no means scientific and might not even be that accurate since most people who contact me very much want to save their marriage. It's fair to say that those I hear from are very motivated to avoid a divorce.

But, it's not at all rare for me to hear back from happy wives who report that their husband did indeed change his mind, or at least agreed to mediation or a delay before making things final. So, it most certainly is not impossible. However, being fair and balanced, some wives are unable to change their husband's mind, which has seemingly long been made up. I have had a couple of people report getting back together and remarried after a final divorce so this is not out of the question either. Sometimes when I tell wives this, they ask me what they can do to increase the chances that their husband will change his mind about the divorce. I have a definite opinion on this, which I will share with you now.

Things That Might Increases The Chances That Your Husband Will Change His Mind About The Divorce (Even After Filing): Before I get in to those things that I see helping with this situation, I want to caution about the things that I most universally see hurt it. When you are looking in the eyes of a divorce and the thing that you fear most is on the horizon, it's very easy to feel desperate and to act on those feelings. Because you feel like you will do anything to keep the divorce from being final. So if you have to resort to small threats or just stopping short of begging, or even attempting to make him feel guilty or ashamed, then so be it. Heck, many wives have no problems playing the kid card in this situation because desperate times call for desperate measures. I understand these temptations because I experienced them myself. But they didn't make my situation better. They made it worse.

No one likes being threatened, manipulated or forced into feeling negative emotions. As a result, he will often pull away from you even more or feel more negatively about you when you try these things. I know that this is not what you want to hear. But it is true. Sometimes women that tell me that they did wear their husbands down using these methods. But guess what? The victory doesn't last. Because he's not really there because he wants to be. He is there because he gave in. And one day he will realize that and want to leave or divorce again and it will just be that much harder for the wife to pull a rabbit out of the hat all over again.

Now that we've covered avoiding negativity, where does that leave you? Doing just the opposite. Focusing on the positive. Conducing yourself with grace and respect. I know that this might seem crazy to you. But you want for him to look at you and think that maybe he was wrong, or hasty, or both. He's not going to do that if you are acting mean, nasty, desperate, or irrational. Make it very hard for him to dislike you or to feel defensive around you right now. In some states, there is court mandated mediation or counseling. Use it. Make sure that every time you interact with him, you are pleasant and easy to be around. Because if you are, that will give you the best chance of him looking at you and wondering if just maybe he made a mistake.

Does this strategy work every time? I'm afraid not. But it works enough of the time that it is most certainly worth a try. Not only does it give you the best chance of getting him to change his mind, but if the divorce should go through you have put yourself in the best position to get back together or afterward or at least maintain a healthy relationship until he comes to his senses.

How do I know this? Because I was in this exact situation. My husband was one of those that changed his mind about the divorce. But not until things came down to the wire and not until I made many mistakes that almost costs me my marriage. If it helps, you can read that very personal story on my blog at http://isavedmymarriage.com/

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