Introduction
Your future husband has to be your soul mate - and your sole mate. The relationship you get into when you marry is supposed to last a lifetime. But more importantly, your happiness is supposed to last a lifetime. That's why it is critically important to follow a structured approach to selecting the man of your dreams.
What Do You Want?
Begin by asking yourself exactly what you want from your marriage, and therefore from your future husband.
When you do this exercise, stay realistic. It would be very tempting to define the requirements for your husband in such a manner as to rule out all but Superman...
Think about what makes you happy now, because those things are not likely to change dramatically once you get married...
Define Your Ideal Man
Now that you have listed the things that make you happy, start thinking about the characteristics a man would need to have in order to match those things that make you happy.
For example, let's say one of the things that makes you happy is to get out in nature, and therefore you love going on treks through areas of great natural beauty.
Now imagine you find a guy who is a typical "computer geek" and whose idea of fun is a weekend of playing internet games against his friends...
How much chance do you think a relationship with him would have? Umm, about zero per cent?
You get the idea. Find a guy whose interests and characteristics match your own.
Can People With Differences Not Have Happy Marriages?
At this time you might want to ask whether it is impossible for people with differing interests to have a successful marriage. Of course it isn't impossible.
It is often said that "opposites attract." But such people will have to work much harder to make their relationship work.
In the beginning it might be interesting to have someone with the opposite idea to yours, and normally people tend to "tolerate" such differences during the "being-in-love" phase of their relationship.
But after a few years, when the novelty has worn off, those same people often get irritated by their partner's differing attitudes and interests.
While I am trying not to generalise, I have to warn you to make doubly sure that both of you are not only willing, but absolutely committed to make your differences work... now and into the future.
Measure Your Potential Partner Against Your Ideal
Now you know what makes you happy.
And you have defined the characteristics of a man that would support those things and tend to naturally do them.
All that remains to do is to measure a potential husband against what you have defined, and voila... you've found your ideal man!
What About Love?
"But what about love?" you ask. "Does love not come into play?"
I'm glad you asked.
Of course it does!
Love is critical. After all, you're not buying a horse!
The process described above can never stand on its own, simply because human relationships - especially marriage - are much, much more important than buying a horse.
Love absolutely has to be present, otherwise the relationship will start off with a huge disadvantage.
The problem with love is, however, that many people don't know what it is.
Girls tend to think that, because they have allowed the guy to have sex with them it automatically means the guy loves them.
Sorry, ladies, but that simply is not true. If you are willing to lay down for him he will be only too willing to take advantage of it. Oh, he might be whispering some sweet words into your ear (to make himself feel less guilty for using you) but once he finds another girl who is "willing" he'll suddenly be "head-over-heels in love" with her... until the next one comes along.
Summary
While women use their hearts to fall in love, they should also employ their brains and some logical thinking. That will spare them a lot of heartache, not to mention divorce.
If you want to find a man that will make you his goddess for the rest of your natural lives together, then invite him to read this eBook in order to learn what being a good husband really means.
Go to http://www.goodhusbandsecrets.com/ to get your own copy of this amazing eBook.
Thanks for reading, and may I wish you a long, happy and fulfilling marriage - Schalk Lubbe
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