Every bride hopes that when she marries for the first time, it will last forever. Unfortunately, this is not always the case due to unforeseen circumstances or things just not working out as planned. But the big question after a failed marriage is... can you fall in love again? Absolutely! And for some, the second time around may be even better than the first.
When it's time to plan that second marriage, many couples decide on simplicity and elegance. They are more mature at this point and likely know exactly what they want. For many, the guest list is usually smaller, with only close family and friends. I have met with several brides marrying for the second time who have remarked that their first wedding was large and lavish - something they do not want a second time around, you know the saying "been there done that".
Couples will choose a small venue perhaps a little more quaint and quiet. Most will do a ceremony on site followed by dinner and dancing. Some couples are even choosing to do a late-night candle ceremony at around 8:00pm, followed by fruit and pastries or a Sunday morning brunch. They really want to keep it scaled down but yet very elegant.
If you feel uncomfortable with guests purchasing a gift because they attended your first wedding, then choose to note "no gifts please" on your invitations. It is a thoughtful gesture on your part, but you will find most people will not walk in empty-handed anyways. Another fantastic idea would be to list your favourite charity for guests to make a donation to, in lieu of a gift. If this is not an issue for your particular wedding then of course you will be accepting gifts. You will find that many of these couples do not set up a wedding registry because they both have so many items already in their homes. This is where a honeymoon registry though would come in handy.
In terms of a wedding dress, some brides may again choose to purchase a traditional wedding dress while others will decide on an evening or cocktail gown. Just be aware that you can toss that "don't wear white the second time around" rule right out the window. Hubby may choose to rent a tuxedo or just wear a dark suit. Instead of a large bridal party you will likely see only one or two attendants maximum. The floral bouquets can be made more simple and cost-efficient, for example by carrying a classy long stem rose instead of an entire elaborate bouquet.
If there are younger children involved from a previous marriage, do your best to include them in the planning stages. Depending on their ages, they may take on the role of flower girl, ring bearer, or can perhaps do a reading at the ceremony. This will certainly help them to adjust with the new change in their lives and make them feel part of the family.
A wedding the second time around should be considered as a new beginning so don't try to plan the wedding exactly like your first. Don't wear the same dress, choose a different location, and write your own new vows. Ensure both families are part of the celebration and create a joyous atmosphere as you enter a new life with your significant other.
Wedding and event planner for over 18 years of experience, sharing all my ideas and tips with brides to be
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